As I sit and write this newsletter, I know already that this year, and this decade, will have many ups and downs for us all. We all wish for a healthy and wonderful year, and this is my wish for you too, but the reality is that our days, our weeks, our months and our years will be peppered with many highs and lows. I’m sure that we’ve all already felt this in the first weeks of this year. I certainly have. Some things are what we may choose for ourselves, some will be thrust upon us and definitely not what we would have chosen, but somehow we have to learn to deal with them and to cope, and hopefully even to thrive. Our world is one of constant change, constant news, constant stimulation. It is very easy to get sucked into it all and to lose oneself in anxiety and fear. It’s not so easy to stay grounded and sane.

This week I hosted a follow up class for my Feminine Wisdom group of ladies. It was a time for us all to ground and to exhale. A time to tune into ourselves and to nourish our bodies and souls. I shared with them the story of the Farmer and the Horse. It is a Taoist story and it goes something like this …

A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion who was very important and useful on the farm. One day, the horse ran away and their neighbours exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe …”

A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbours shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe …”

Later that week, the farmer’s son was trying to break in one of the mares. She threw him to the ground, and he broke his leg. The villagers cried, “Your son broke his leg, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe …”

A few weeks later, soldiers from the national army marched through town, recruiting all the able-bodied boys for the army. They did not take the farmer’s son, still recovering from his injury. Friends shouted, “Your boy is spared, what tremendous luck!” To which the farmer replied, “Maybe …”

And so the moral of the story is that we often don’t know where things will lead in life. We cannot sort events into “good” and “bad” like we can our laundry. Both the “good” and the “bad” pass. And the intensity of our suffering is often attached to the meaning we place on what has happened, rather than the actual event itself. It’s our judgement of the situation that often keeps us trapped and unhappy.

I find that when I’m stressed or anxious, I try to control everything even more. I try to consider all the possibilities and then protect myself or our family from most of them, or I try and engineer the ‘perfect’ outcome. I’m filled with “shoulds”, “should haves” and “shouldn’t haves”. Full of self-doubt and fear. This doesn’t feel good. I’m living in my head and not tuned into my body and my intuition. I don’t trust myself and it breaks my flow in life.

I love the work of Tosha Silver and particularly her book “Outrageous Openness”. I’ve given it as a gift often, and it sits on my bedside table. She offers the suggestion that rather than praying for things to work out just how we think that they “should” work out for us to be most happy, we should instead pray for the “highest possible outcome for all” in any given situation. And I try to send love and blessings to the person or situation, rather than worry. There is so much beyond our control. So much that makes us feel powerless, stressed and anxious. And so I find I’m turning to this more and more. And when I do it, I feel a relaxation in my body, a letting go, an allowing of life, and a stepping back into my flow. I encourage you to try it too.


I will be continuing to host my Feminine Wisdom course this year. I hosted 4 courses last year and so enjoyed them and the wonderful women who partook. The next course will be starting in a month’s time on Thursday 12 March, and will be running in the morning from 9 – 11.30am for 4 weeks. If this captures your attention and you would like to know more, there is a link below for more information, and I’d love you to join me on the next course!

Some of the feedback from the latest Feminine Wisdom course was:
“Completing Nicola Aylward’s Feminine Wisdom course has allowed me to find a calm energy during a particularly frantic time”

“Thank you for a liberating and inspirational course. It could not have come at a better time for me. It has helped me focus on my journey in a kind and gentle way.”

“A wonderful forum with a circle of women where we learnt to become more grounded, more present and to be full and celebrate our magical feminine wisdom.”

“Nicola invites the pursuit of the feminine, the enjoyment of every aspect: physical, emotional, sexual, spiritual, with practical tips, small changes to make in everyday life. Thank you! Very empowering!”

I’d love you to join me and to bring along a friend to share this wonderful and empowering journey! We often need support along the way in life and it’s powerful to have someone to share this with.


I will also be continuing to host classes teaching about dōTERRA essential oils. I have loved using these oils for myself and our family, and I have found them to be enormously effective and empowering.  They are my “go to” for anything from sore tummies to coughs and colds, from headaches to sunburn, grazes and skin rashes, from restless nights to anxiety (kids and my own!) and so much more. They are completely pure and have undergone rigorous testing which ensures that they are very safe and also very potent and effective.

I had used essential oils prior to discovering dōTERRA but had not really found them effective in treating ailments. I also had no idea how to use them properly. It was relaxing to put a couple of drops of lavender in the bath but that was about all. I now know how much the purity, and the high therapeutic grade of the plant affects the potency of the oil. I was so impressed by these oils that I started sharing them naturally with friends and family, and with the women on my courses. I realised that, as a medical professional, if I was going to be using and sharing these oils, it was important that I knew for myself about the purity, the safety, how ethical and sustainable the sourcing was and so much more. So at the last minute I went to the dōTERRA convention in Utah in September. I was absolutely blown away! I loved learning about the different oils, where they were sourced (source to you), hearing from the growers and distillers on the ground, and learning about how much dōTERRA was giving back – both to the communities who were growing, harvesting and distilling for them through their co-impact sourcing model, and also through their Healing Hands Foundation. There is too much to be said in this newsletter but for my video report back have a look at this FB link  or watch this short video by dōTERRA – ‘Pursue what’s Pure’.

I’ve found that I’m naturally incorporating these oils into my life and my work and I’d love to share them with you too. For more on future classes that my team and I will be hosting,
please click on the link below or contact me and I’ll let you know about future classes.

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